Men where built to be tough and relentless and thats how they should stay even if it is difficult to do.
Putting gender on specific traits builds up shame for experiencing them. I think that vulnerability and compassion are important for all sides to experience. By suppressing any emotions, whether they be more positive or negative, we can end up turning all of those motions into more violent means. I believe that the emphasis on toughness for men makes them more insecure and actually resort to violent tendencies when they feel any strong emotion.
